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We’re All Allowed To Have Lazy Days

This one just happens to be one of mine. 

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Busy weekend with my sister’s birthday, busy week ahead of me working and starting to move into my new place, and I think I may or may not be getting sick. By sick I mean that I’ve pretty much slept through the past three days and I’m still exhausted, but hey, we’ll see how it goes. Hopefully it’s just a result of what my dad refers to as ‘the monthlies,’ but I’m really hoping I won’t be falling asleep on the job tomorrow.

Anyways, because I’m being slightly lazy today and owed you all a post anyway, I thought I’d show you guys some incredible things I just found on Youtube. You all know what TED talks are, right? I just found these two over the past days of endless sleep that really got me thinking. I think they’re so crazy important to listen to and to understand – and the women who do the speeches are absolutely incredible.

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After Tragedy Strikes

…How Do You Put Yourself Back Together?

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I know I touched on this a bit ago in this amazing guest post, but I thought I’d like to expand a little more on the topic. Tragedy happens, people leave us, we get ourselves out of bad situations are are forced to deal with the ensuing trauma – so just how are we supposed to pick ourselves up after that? How are we supposed to move forward and find ourselves again?

There aren’t any easy answers to those things. Believe me, I know. I’ve had to pick myself up off the floor too many times to think dealing with things and moving on is simple. But I do know a few things that’ve helped me rediscover (or discover for the first time) myself admits the chaos. Seeing as that’s what I’m in the middle of dealing with, and I know a lot of my friends are too, I thought it was about time I wrote something about it.

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Finding Yourself – Thanks for the Post, Love.

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Written by my delightful Dylan. Thanks for being so honest and sharing what you’re going through. 

Recently I got out of a toxic relationship. It’s complicated to say what we actually were, so we’ll just call them The Ex.

 They played with me and manipulated me until I was someone who I didn’t recognize looking in the mirror. After I got rid of them, trying to look at myself again was difficult. The amount of self hate I suffer with is difficult. It effects everything, how I wake up in the morning, how I get dressed, how I do my makeup. I can’t even sit comfortably anymore, trying to keep my shoulders drawn in and my thighs touching so I take up less room. I couldn’t listen to the same music they did either. Everything in my life was them.

 So I changed my life. I changed my music and changed the video games I played. I even changed the clothes I wore.

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Taking Care of Yourself Despite Everything

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Let’s be honest here guys: taking care of yourself while you’re struggling with mental health, and trying to balance a million different activities and relationships, is next to impossible. Something always falls to the side, right? And while we can say that we’re going to take on less hours at work or go out partying a little less, it’s always our me time that suffers.

However, at least for myself, I find that in order to keep my hit points up, I need to be able to maintain a good sense of self care, no matter how badly I’m feeling. And although some days I literally have to force myself to get up, and often times I can really only manage one or two of the things off my list, it’s important that I maintain a certain level of self care for myself at all times.

Whether you relate to this or not, I do promise you this: the more time you take to invest in yourself, the better you’re going to feel. It might not out right make you feel any less awful than than you had been feeling before, but it will help you start getting on the right track.

Therefore, I’ve compiled a list of the most important self-care things you can practice on a (somewhat) daily basis.

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The Hit Point Scale

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Like I’ve mentioned before, I’ve spent a lot of time developing theories about myself and the rest of humanity. Maybe it’s a writer thing, I don’t know, but I find it helpful to be able to understand those around me. Gives me an idea of what I need to do to take care of myself a little better, and how to communicate effectively with the important people in my life. Of course, I’m going to be talking about another one of those theories today, and I hope it’ll help you learn some things about yourself as well.

I grew up with video games – in particular, JRPGs like Final Fantasy. I use them for a lot of different metaphors in my life, but I’m pretty sure anyone, regardless of gaming history, will be able to understand what I’m trying to say with this.

Start off by imagining that you’re a video game character, alright? Obviously, this means that you have a hit point bar. To keep it simple, every morning when you wake up, your hit points generally reset to 100. By the end of the day, depending on what you did with your time, they’re often depleted, right?

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