This one just happens to be one of mine.
Busy weekend with my sister’s birthday, busy week ahead of me working and starting to move into my new place, and I think I may or may not be getting sick. By sick I mean that I’ve pretty much slept through the past three days and I’m still exhausted, but hey, we’ll see how it goes. Hopefully it’s just a result of what my dad refers to as ‘the monthlies,’ but I’m really hoping I won’t be falling asleep on the job tomorrow.
Anyways, because I’m being slightly lazy today and owed you all a post anyway, I thought I’d show you guys some incredible things I just found on Youtube. You all know what TED talks are, right? I just found these two over the past days of endless sleep that really got me thinking. I think they’re so crazy important to listen to and to understand – and the women who do the speeches are absolutely incredible.
Continue reading We’re All Allowed To Have Lazy Days
It’s cooler than you think.
I’ve always loved playing those dumb farming games. Harvest Moon has always been my jam. Animal crossing too, of course. Played them for most of my life, and there’s something about the relaxed lifestyle of the characters, the small town vibe, and the idea of striking it rich with cute pixelated pumpkins, that’s just beyond appealing. Not to mention the sense of mystery and magic they throw into the games as well – the idea that not everything is as it seems. It’s awesome, and a great way to keep yourself occupied when you otherwise feel like doing nothing.
Like I mentioned in this months magazine, I’ve started playing a new one, called Stardew Valley. I’m enjoying it like crazy, and on those nights when I feel particularly miserable, it’s a great way to pass the time and distract myself a little. It’s actually so much fun, and I super recommend it.
However, that’s not my point.
The thing is, I always go into these games at full force. Okay, we’re just starting out. So I’m gotta create a huge field and plant a hundred crops and pursue the person I’m going to marry and dive into the mines and get good at fishing and get a barn and–
Stands to reason I’d always feel slightly overwhelmed and end up just giving up before I get anywhere. And before you mention the fact that this is a perfect metaphor for how I live my own life, I already know that, thank you very much.
Continue reading The Farming Way
…How Do You Put Yourself Back Together?
I know I touched on this a bit ago in this amazing guest post, but I thought I’d like to expand a little more on the topic. Tragedy happens, people leave us, we get ourselves out of bad situations are are forced to deal with the ensuing trauma – so just how are we supposed to pick ourselves up after that? How are we supposed to move forward and find ourselves again?
There aren’t any easy answers to those things. Believe me, I know. I’ve had to pick myself up off the floor too many times to think dealing with things and moving on is simple. But I do know a few things that’ve helped me rediscover (or discover for the first time) myself admits the chaos. Seeing as that’s what I’m in the middle of dealing with, and I know a lot of my friends are too, I thought it was about time I wrote something about it.
Continue reading After Tragedy Strikes
I always thought I was so smart, that I’d never fall victim to anything. I’d never end up falling for a scam, never be tricked into giving away my money, and never end up in a bad relationship. However, despite how wise and all-knowing I like to think I am, to say I’m ‘too smart’ is simply not true. After all, while I may not have been gullible enough to send my contact information to a Nigerian Prince, I have, in fact, been involved in a terrible and abusive relationship. I know that contradicts everything about my dating life that I’ve posted about so far, but I really only realized how bad it actually was about a week ago.
Maybe I’ll go into details about that later. Maybe I won’t. But I know that there are millions of people around the world just like me, like both my parents and a lot of the friends I have – who have been, or are in the middle of being taken advantage of. Look, I figured out this was going on after about a year and a half. My dad didn’t clue in for nine whole years. As I’ve learned, no one’s immune.
So I’ve decided to make a bit of a list of the warning signs to look for in your own relationships. Not that knowing this list will make you any less vulnerable, but at least you’ve got a bit of a tool in your back pocket, as it were. I wish I had known this before all the trash went down, but maybe it might help someone else.
Continue reading Warning Signs
Written by my delightful Dylan. Thanks for being so honest and sharing what you’re going through.
Recently I got out of a toxic relationship. It’s complicated to say what we actually were, so we’ll just call them The Ex.
They played with me and manipulated me until I was someone who I didn’t recognize looking in the mirror. After I got rid of them, trying to look at myself again was difficult. The amount of self hate I suffer with is difficult. It effects everything, how I wake up in the morning, how I get dressed, how I do my makeup. I can’t even sit comfortably anymore, trying to keep my shoulders drawn in and my thighs touching so I take up less room. I couldn’t listen to the same music they did either. Everything in my life was them.
So I changed my life. I changed my music and changed the video games I played. I even changed the clothes I wore.
Continue reading Finding Yourself – Thanks for the Post, Love.