On The Topic Of Getting Older

Being An Adult Is Not What I Thought It Would Be.


A few years ago, I went to England all alone. Thought it would be a good experience, and I had to wait a year before I could attend college at the same time as my friend. Or so went the plan. I was eighteen, fresh out of high school, and a rather inexperienced and naive kid. Needless to say, I learned a lot about the world, myself, and navigating society as a successful adult. It was pretty cool.

Moving here – without any backup, parents, friends, or otherwise – has taught me a whole heck of a lot more. While you may not agree with all these things, I decided to write about what it means to be an adult.

Or something.

  1. You’re constantly broke. If you’re not paying bills, you’re buying food. If not that, you’re buying life necessities. Like dish soap. It’s awesome. Whatever money you’re left with will inevitably go towards something you’re not actually in the mood to buy.
  2. You really have no idea what you’re doing. Think adults actually know what the hell is going on? Nope. We’re all just winging it.
  3. You don’t feel old. You still feel like you’re eighteen, or something.
  4. Fear is still a thing. I always thought that adults were invulnerable to fear, that they never get afraid, never have nightmares, never feel anxious about anything – what a load of crap. Okay, maybe this’ll change when I’m in my fifties, I don’t know. But being an adult is still being afraid of things, but doing them anyway.
  5. Maybe it’s just me, but you’re pretty much just bullshitting your way through life and hoping it’ll all work out in the end.
  6. Difficult conversations never get any easier. No matter how many times you have them.
  7. You can have cake and ice cream whenever the hell you want.
  8. No on harasses you to clean your room. Well, maybe.
  9. Everything is your responsibility. You can’t hide your actions behind others, and you have to face your own consequences.
  10. While you (hopefully) have people around you who can help and assist you, no one creates your life but you,
  11. If I don’t wanna wear pants, I don’t bloody well have to. Thank you for teaching me how to dress myself, mom, but I do what I want now.
  12. You actually get excited to receive practical things as presents because it mean you aren’t going to have to spend money on them yourself.
  13. Getting a rolling pin can make you’re entire day.
  14. Life is ridiculously expensive. Like, goodness. I didn’t ask to be born in the first place. Shouldn’t you guys cut me a break or something? It’s not like I had a choice in any of this.
  15. Leftovers are pretty much the best surprise you can find in the fridge. Means you don’t have to cook anything, and dinner’s ready to go.
  16. Don’t even talk to me about finding five bucks in your pocket when you put on new pants.
  17. The smell test is legit. Do I need to do laundry? Smell it. Food still good? Smell it. Should I shower? Probably.
  18. Now it’s your turn to start handling the bills at dinner.
  19. Nothing is ever perfect. It takes time to build up the Instagram aesthetic. There’s always something to be done, another adjustment to be made, and you’ll probably never be finished learning and improving on things.
  20. You only have so much time on your hands, and sometimes things slip by the wayside. For me personally, it’s often eating. I do everything else but that. Which is fine. You gotta have at least a little grace for yourself. As long as you’re okay, of course.

Agree? Disagree? What sort of things would you add to the list?

4 thoughts on “On The Topic Of Getting Older”

  1. Definitely some good stuff in here.

    #3 is so definitely true, and it’s always surprising.

    But I should clarify that. You *do* feel old, but the relative nature of maturity makes it so you feel like you’re not acting as old as you should be.

    You still laugh at things that, 20 years ago, you thought you wouldn’t be laughing at 20 years from then. You act the same as you’ve always acted and then realize that it’s actually not a bad thing that you’re acting like that (no “I’ll grow out of that”).

    Within reason, of course. If it’s bad behaviour, hopefully you’ll change, but it won’t necessarily be because you “grew out of it.”

    If any of that makes sense.

    #4 No, it definitely doesn’t change in your fifites. I’m only 47, but my wife is 50 and no, it doesn’t change.

    Life is quite the learning process, isn’t it?


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