… You Stay At Home More Often Than Not.
I’ve been living in a small town for just about a week now. And by small town, I mean the no-streetlights type of community where you might expect a teenager to spend time at their grandparent’s over the summer and meet the love of their life. If life were a movie, that is. I spent the majority of the time up in our cabin with Dad, since I haven’t seen him in a few months. Now, however, I am at my grandparents. Cliche, I know.
It’s day four, and I’m not sure how long I’m going to be here for. To be honest, I don’t know much of anything at this point.
One thing I have picked up on though, is this overwhelming sense of community. I know I’ve only been here for a few days, and although I’ve been coming here since I was a youngling, I’ve never gotten involved much with the locals around here. I hate meeting new people, remember?
Or rather, I just dislike people. Socializing is fun, I lie through my tears.
Anyway, it’s like stepping into a game like Animal Crossing or Harvest Moon. Everything’s so relaxed and simple. People doddle along, doing what they would like, meeting up with friends in the only grocery store in town because they actually know everyone. Time seems to stand still, and things just are.
I don’t think I’ve ever been this laid back in my entire life. Growing up in a city, everything’s always the busier the better. Here, however, life takes on a different pace.
And because of this pace, I believe, people connect more. They’re less worried about rushing a million different places and handling a thousand appointments, they’re taking time to get to know their neighbors, the people who scan their groceries or pour their morning coffees.
When did we lose that? Relationships are something so crazy vital to the human experience, and somewhere along the line, we stopped valuing that. I’m not talking here about how technology separates people – because I’m like 100% sure it does the opposite – but rather, where we place our priorities. Money, careers, yourself – all those things are important, yes, but after seeing a community who all come together to support each other in their businesses and endeavors, I find it incredible.
They support each new business that pops up. Guess there aren’t that many, but they actually spend time getting to know the owners. They spend time helping out their neighbors when they go out of town, or keep up on how former friends are doing despite moving away. They’re loyal, stick together, and have each other’s backs when they need it most.
Again, I might be looking at everything somewhat clouded, since I haven’t been here for very long. I’m sure there are a heck ton of problems with being in a tiny community as well. For example, the expectation to go out and be friendly and meet everyone, even if, perhaps, you’re a massive introvert.
I guess, at the end of all this, I just really like the idea of getting back to some of the basics of what it means to be human – connections. Somewhere where everyone just has each other’s backs. That doesn’t mean that you have to understand or agree with each other. Doesn’t mean you have to like everyone and avoid arguments at all costs, but rather, you’re there when they need you most. And, of course, they’re there for you as well.
I think all of us desire those sorts of relationships. Maybe if we step up and start something, maybe then we’ll find some of the happiness that seems to allude us all in North America and other 1st world countries.
So, here’s the dealio. I’m starting a community. Anyone can join. We’ll create a group on Discord and get to know each other. We’ll chat and make dumb jokes, but most importantly, we’ll be able to give each other the support we need. And maybe, just maybe, we’ll be able to tackle some of that intense loneliness we as a race are stricken with.
Interested in being a part of this? Comment below, and I’ll be in touch to get you added into things. I’ve also got more information about the whole thing on The Club page, if you want to check it out.